You've got to stop playing it safe so you can win and be successful and get ahead so that you can get the things you want in life and become who you want to be. First step is to take alternative hot cold showers, you could either start warm and then crank it cold and do it before you're ready. Avoid getting ready just do it and this will train your brain, not to hesitate. You will feel alive when you're done and jump in when it's cold and turn it off.
You have a voice in your head saying that you need to play it safe otherwise this will happen or if you put yourself out there then something else will happen. This gets drilled in people's brain from when they were younger, or from their parents or schools’ teachers’ culture or religion. It is disheartening because people are playing it safe because they have this voice in their heads. So, you must realize it is not even your voice and it is not even true. One of the keys is to tell that voice to stop it or shut up. Use a pattern interruption and then say something that is positive. Always remember to do it, however, you do it. Get an action and just go for it and be in a power state because then negative emotions goes away. When you are in action, all that fear goes away. Start taking action to build that fear muscle every single day by doing things that make you uncomfortable, like saying hello to unknown people or greeting people when you get in an elevator or how are you when you walk by.
You will change yourself because you have built that fear muscle and you will probably change their day as well if they are not having a great day. You should realize that the only way to actually fail is to live a life that's so safe that you fail by default and never get what you want or never become who you want to be.
Do not think about what people are going to say and don't think if people are going to like you, because it's all made up. It’s all lies we are telling ourselves, it's lies we've adopted from other people and using their failures, we're installing failures in our lives. So, we don't want to make the same mistakes. We do need to make our own mistakes and we do need to learn a lot from it. So, we should avoid ever letting someone or their limitations get into our head and stay.
Avoid someone's limitations to dictate what you can and what you cannot do. Always be working on yourself and growing. You need to develop yourself always because you are naturally, automatically going to be more confident, stronger, and going to attract the right situations and the right people to you. This will automatically happen when you do the inner work and let go of what is not working in you. However, you do that, whether it is meditation or spirituality or a coach or a mentor.