4 Keys to Stop Worrying About What People Think About You
We are always worried about what people think about us. In our 40s, and 50s, we kind of stop worrying about what people think about us. And when we reach our 60s and 70s, we actually come to realize that no one was actually thinking about us all along. So here are a key four keys to stop worrying about what people think about you. So step one is to just breathe through it. Just breathe through that worry or fear. Let that feeling be there instead of fighting it or resisting it because what you resist will persist. Just let it be there and breathe through it and eventually it will go away.
Number two is to just do it. If you're afraid of that, or if you're worried what people might think, just do it anyways. Because if you are fearing it, means it's important to you. Usually, if something is not important to you, you don't care and don't even think what people might think about you. But when you do consider the people, it must be something important to you. It can be a mission or purpose or something that's impactful and powerful for us. So do it within three seconds. Even if you have to ruffle people's feathers that is okay go ahead and ruffles people's feathers. Have a message or have a purpose and speak out as these were the gifts given by the universe or God to us. You do have a choice to be normal or average and utilize all your gifts and everything you were given but the best way is to use all these gifts and just do the things you want to and take action within three seconds or else you will talk yourself out of it.
Number three is to rationally ask yourself what does it cost? Or what is the cost of the opportunity if I don't do this? Think about what consequences will happen if you don't take action. Think about the money, time, energy, cost and what all is lost if you don't take action then and what is the amazing thing that can happen if you take action. List out all the amazing things that will happen and ask whether it is worth to rationalize it.
Number four is to remember that people really aren't thinking that much about you anyways and if they are judging or complaining or chirping on you online or and giving you negative feedback or if they are putting you down, then they probably have nothing better to do anyways. And how can you actually value if they have nothing better to do than to put you down? Pointing out mistakes is a good thing but it's not helpful if it's not done in a healthy way and done just to put you down. So why would you want to value them? If something does blow up, people are going to forget about it in a day. Remember, you can always say sorry, and when in doubt, speak out and do everything with purpose and passion. However, if you do ruffle someone's feathers or you say something the wrong way, you can always reframe it. And you can apologize. If someone really doesn't like what you say and you are being authentic, then think about whether you want to hang out with them. If you are in any kind of relationship with a person who doesn't value you, think again about why you should continue to be in that relation.
Remember the words of Einstein, ‘If you can't explain something simply enough, you don't understand it well enough”. So, you don't have to be using all these big words and fancy terms and acronyms and wow people or blow them away. You just have to be raw and real with people and talk to them like a real person. And you're going to have much better results in communication relationships and people will take what you say.